There is a myth that overcoming binge-eating is about “gaining control,” 
or that being “out of control” is the problem to be solved. 

This myth encourages people to grasp for control in any way they can think of—
restricting, dieting, trying the new this or the new that; 
anything that affords us the illusion of certainty,
the illusion of
“this time I’ve got it,”
the illusion of
“this time things will go my way.”

But this way of thinking about food is a trap; 

when things inevitably don’t go our way,
when something unforeseen or out of our control
hits us in the face and affects our food,
we binge—
unwilling or not knowing how
to roll with the punches.

Considering the wide array of factors that affect our eating,
(things like instincts, hormones, emotions, environmental triggers)
it’s safe to say that full control over our food is unlikely. 

But we can learn to roll with the punches. 

Overcoming binge-eating is not about “gaining control,”
but about being able to work with and adapt to 
our fundamental out-of-control-ness.